While weddings are often a grand and romantic affair, not every is meant to last. Every year, many couples separate, and many more opt to get divorced.
If you have separated from your spouse, and are considering a divorce, make sure you keep these things in mind. They'll help you to get through this trying time.
1. Consider Reconciliation
Before you officially file divorce paperwork, you should take the time to consider reconciliation. Is reconciliation something you would be open to, or do you feel as though your marriage can't be saved?
If you are open to reconciliation, you should talk to your spouse about counseling. Counseling sessions can be helpful even if you do decide to get divorced; they can help you to work through your issues so that your divorce will be more amicable.
2. Copy All Your Records
Whether you're moving out or staying in your current home, it can be helpful to make a copy of all your important records. It's easy for paperwork to get mixed up during a divorce, and you'll want to make sure you have everything you need on hand. You'll need copies of important documents in order to obtain a divorce.
3. Cancel Joint Lines of Credit
Part of getting married is joining your life with another person's. Part of divorce is doing the opposite. Cancel any joint lines of credit, and close any join bank accounts. If you and your partner have decided to separate, then you need to work to untangle your finances.
If you and your spouse have shared debt, like a mortgage, separating your finances can be more complicated. Talk to each other about how you would like to handle this debt. Communication is key.
4. Hire A Lawyer
It's smart to hire a lawyer even if you and your partner are on amicable terms. With the aid of a lawyer, you can have a clean divorce without having to go through court.
You may be able to save money by working with a lawyer that specializes in mediation. Take a look at the options you have, and find one that suits your needs.
5. Have A Strong Support System
Divorce can be emotionally challenging, even if you're the person that filed for it. You may be facing judgement from your friends and family members. Your life will be changing in a significant way.
Make sure you have a strong support system behind you. If you don't have friends in the area, you should consider going to a support group. There are many groups that are specifically aimed at people who are recently divorced.
Divorce is difficult even under the best of circumstances. Whether you and your spouse are confident about divorce, or are still considering reconciliation, you need to make sure you're aware of what you will be facing. If you're prepared, the separation and divorce process will be less of a struggle. You'll be able to avoid a lot of common problems, and can start building a new life for yourself right away.